Former Ex-Gay Leaders Unite in Opposition to Conversion Therapy

In 2014, nine former leaders in the ex-gay movement decided to formally come out against the harmful practice of conversion therapy in an open letter through Born Perfect. These former leaders support bans of the practice upon minors.

The open letter received national media attention, including recognition in TIME Magazine. Since then, the list of signers has grown to approximately 25 former “conversion therapists.”

Their open letter has helped guide state legislators to support bans against conversion therapy in Kentucky and Virginia.

The Open Letter

Conversion Therapy, also known as “reparative therapy”, “ex-gay therapy,” or “sexual orientation change efforts” (SOCE), professes to help lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people to change or overcome their sexual orientation or gender identity. The majority of those who practice this “therapy” often do so with little or no formal psychological training, operating instead from a strict religious perspective, believing homosexuality to be a “sin.”

At one time, we were not only deeply involved in these “ex-gay” programs, we were the founders, the leaders, and the promoters. Together we represent more than half a century of experience, so few people are more knowledgeable about the ineffectiveness and harm of conversion therapy. We know first-hand the terrible emotional and spiritual damage it can cause, especially for LGBT youth. We once believed that there was something morally wrong and psychologically “broken” about being LGBT. We know better now. We once believed that sexual orientation or gender identity were somehow chosen or could be changed. We know better now. We once thought it was impossible to embrace our sexual orientation or sexual identity as an intrinsic, healthy part of who we are and who we were created to be. We know better now. Looking back, we were just believing (and sometimes teaching) what we had been taught—that our identity needed mending. We grew up being told that being LGBT was disordered, sick, mentally ill, sinful, and displeasing to God. We grew up being told that loving, same-sex relationships were shallow, lust-driven, deceived, disordered, and impossible.

We grew up with the repetitive message that LGBT people were not enough — not straight enough, not Christian enough, not manly or womanly enough, not faithful enough, not praying enough. Never, ever enough. “Toxic” probably sums it up best. That message is poison to the soul. Especially a child’s soul. It can take a lifetime to get rid of that old programming and replace it with healthy, non-toxic views of yourself. Recovery from conversion therapy is difficult at best. Some remain forever scarred, emotionally and spiritually.Conversion therapy reinforces internalized homophobia, anxiety, guilt and depression. It leads to self-loathing and emotional and psychological harm when change doesn’t happen. Regrettably, too many will choose suicide as a result of their sense of failure. In light of this, we now stand united in our conviction that conversion therapy is not “therapy,” but is instead both ineffective and harmful. We align ourselves with every major mainstream professional medical and mental health organization in denouncing attempts to change sexual orientation or gender identity. We admonish parents to love and accept your LGBT children as they are. We beseech the church to accept, embrace, and affirm LGBT persons with full equality and inclusion.

As former “ex-gay” leaders, having witnessed the incredible harm done to those who attempted to change their sexual orientation or gender identity, we join together in calling for a ban on conversion therapy. It is our firm belief that it is much more productive to support, counsel, and mentor LGBT individuals to embrace who they are in order to live happy, well-adjusted lives. We fully support the aim of #BornPerfect to bring an end to conversion therapy.

The Signers

Members of Former Ex-Gay Leaders Alliance
Members of Former Ex-Gay Leaders Alliance
  • Alan Manning Chambers
  • Anthony Bishop
  • Bill Prickett
    Founder, Executive Director (1986-1988), Coming Back
  • Bradford Allen Reubendale
    Lay Leader Volunteer (2005-2007)
    Church Network Coordinator (2007), Exodus International Headquarters
  • Cat Chapman
    Project Coordinator (2000-2003)
    Women’s Ministry Director (2005-2007), Portland Fellowship
  • Darlene Bogle
    Founder, Director, Counselor (1985-1992), Paraklete Ministries
  • David Foreman
  • David Matheson
  • Don Brown
  • Jeff Coe
  • Jeremy Marks
    Founder (1988 – 2000), Courage UK
    Exodus Europe (1988 – 1989)
  • Jim Marjoram
    Worship leader and group leader (1997-2012), Living Waters (Australia, New Zealand)
  • John J Smid
    Executive Director (1987-2008), Love In Action
    Exodus International Board of Directors (1990-1995, 2002-2008)
  • John Paulk
  • Kim Brett
    Former Associate, Exodus International – Australia
    Former Leader, Living Waters and Liberty Inc Australia
  • McKrae Game
    Founder & Executive Director (1999-2013), Truth Ministry; name changed to Hope for Wholeness (2013-2017) as President
  • Michael Bussee
    EXIT (1974-1979)
    Co-founder (1976-1979), Exodus International
  • Paul Martin
  • Randy Thomas
    Executive Vice President (2002-2013), Exodus International
    Director (1997-2002), Living Hope Ministries
  • Roy A. Blankenship
  • Tim Rymel
    Outreach Director (1991-1996), Love in Action
  • Wendy VanderWal Gritter
    Exodus Regional Representative – Canada (2003-2007)
  • Wenn Lawson
    Director (1990-1992), Exodus Melbourne, Australia
  • Yvette Cantu Schneider
    Executive Director (2001-2005), Living in Victory Ministry 
    Director of Women’s Ministry (2008-2011), Exodus International

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